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5 Questions I Wish My Accountability Partner Would Ask Me
Can I contradict the title of this post in the first sentence? #BadBloggingHabit I don’t like the word “accountability partner” any more than I like the word “diet,” and I dislike them both for the...
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Will a Better Sex Life Keep Porn at Bay?
Whose side am I going to take? The defeated husband who feels like his unresponsive wife is hanging him out to dry with his temptation or the betrayed wife who feels like she’s being blamed for her...
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The Inevitable Disappointment of Overgrown Desires
In a previous Covenant Eyes post on “Will a Better Sex Life Keep Porn at Bay?” I made the statement: “When we are willing to sin in order to get something, it has become too important. When something...
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5 Horrible Ways to Tell Your Wife About Your Porn Addiction
If you’re reading this, then you’ve probably wrestled with this question many times before: “How do I tell my wife?” When you couldn’t come up with a good answer, you waited. She still doesn’t know....
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How Broken Trust Regrows: 10 Stage Progression
How does broken trust in a marriage regrow? Growth in trust will require your spouse personally investing in change and your willingness to take relational risks. Your spouse’s growth alone will not...
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19 Possible Motives Triggering Your Porn Consumption
Often triggers and motive are treated as two distinct things, and there are differences. But those differences are more akin to two sides of the same coin than apples and oranges. In this post we’ll...
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7 Marks of Enduring Accountability Relationships
Too often we relegate accountability to the “wouldn’t it be nice” status. It goes on the same list as having a budget and exercising–things we know we should be doing, but never quite find time to...
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How Building “Negative Emotion Tolerance” Helps Us Pursue Sexual Purity
Admittedly, the title of this post is a mouthful, but if you’ll stick with me it won’t be as complicated as it sounds, and it will be worth your time. What is “Negative Emotion Tolerance”? What is...
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Why Your Pastor Can’t Be More Practical than You Are Honest
How often are you truly honest with those around you? Often when we have a prolonged struggle, our tendency is to get upset with those around us. In churches, that frustration often gets directed...
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Do you have the motivation it takes to quit porn?
“Quitting smoking is easy. I’ve done it a couple dozen times,” captures well the pattern of trying to change any unwanted but enjoyable behavior. We want to, but we don’t. We’re motivated, but we’re...
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When Is Professional Help Needed in Porn Addiction Recovery?
This is a question that many people aren’t sure how to frame. We know we shouldn’t wait until things are “that bad” but we want things to be “bad enough” to merit the time and energy of counseling. If...
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6 Ways Watching Porn Affects Your Mental Health
Let’s begin with what should be an obvious point: there is no exclusive, causative correlation between viewing pornography and poor mental health. Meaning there are many individuals who do not view...
View ArticleAm I in Over My Head as an Ally as My Friend Fights for Purity?
We can ask this question as an expression of humility or fear. Before we examine factors that indicate that your friend may need additional help (more than you as an ally), let’s consider each...
View ArticleCompulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder Is Now Officially Recognized
Sexual addiction is becoming an official mental health diagnosis. The World Health Organization (WHO) met in May of this year and adopted the new ICD-11, which includes the diagnosis of Compulsive...
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7 Marks of Enduring Accountability Relationships
Too often we relegate accountability to the “wouldn’t it be nice” status. It goes on the same list as having a budget and exercising–things we know we should be doing, but never quite find time to...
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How Building “Negative Emotion Tolerance” Helps Us Pursue Sexual Purity
Admittedly, the title of this post is a mouthful, but if you’ll stick with me it won’t be as complicated as it sounds, and it will be worth your time. What Is “Negative Emotion Tolerance”? What is...
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Why Your Pastor Can’t Be More Practical than You Are Honest
How often are you truly honest with those around you? Often when we have a prolonged struggle, our tendency is to get upset with those around us. In churches, that frustration often gets directed...
View ArticleDo you have the motivation it takes to quit porn?
“Quitting smoking is easy. I’ve done it a couple dozen times,” captures well the pattern of trying to change any unwanted but enjoyable behavior. We want to, but we don’t. We’re motivated, but we’re...
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When Is Professional Help Needed in Porn Addiction Recovery?
This is a question that many people aren’t sure how to frame. We know we shouldn’t wait until things are “that bad” but we want things to be “bad enough” to merit the time and energy of counseling. If...
View Article6 Ways Watching Porn Affects Your Mental Health
Let’s begin with what should be an obvious point: there is no exclusive, causative correlation between viewing pornography and poor mental health. Meaning there are many individuals who do not view...
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